Odds are if you have a brother or a best friend then at some point in your life you are going to be given the responsibility of delivering a best man speech.
For the more popular men out there, or those who’s best friend has more than one wedding, it may be the case that you have to give more than one in your lifetime.
The best man bears a lot of responsibility on the bride and groom’s big day. Giving a speech with every eye in the room on you can be a daunting task. And no matter how many speeches you’ve given in the past whether it be social or business, the best man speech can be a nerve-racking experience.
Unless you’re naturally funny and used to delivering big speeches off the cuff, you are always best to prepare. Depending on your preference this might be in the form of prompt cards or a fully written out speech. It’s worth remembering that if you are reading out a speech in its entirety, make sure you look up and engage the guests!
Practice makes perfect. Use every opportunity to practice your speech with friends, family or even your dog. This will give you more confidence when standing on the stage or at the top table.
Writing the Speech
The best speeches are heartfelt, funny and unique. Make sure your speech is not too long but also not too short. Mention the bride whether it be a memory of how the bride and groom met, or a compliment on how beautiful she looks. When writing your speech, always remember to consider your audience. Odds are the wife and groom’s family will be at the wedding so don’t mention ex’s or refer to any stories that you would not feel comfortable telling your own parents. The best man’s speech is often considered a balancing act. You should be funny but not offensive! Lay off the in-jokes, avoid making jokes that will only make sense to a hand full of people and isolate everyone else.
Try and appear as confident as possible. Stand up straight and project your voice. If you have prepared your speech then this should help. Although it might feel like a good idea at the time to calm your nerves, don’t get too drunk before your speech!
End on a High
Make a final joke that everybody in the room will get. Thank the bride, groom and bridesmaids along with everyone else in the room. Wish the bride and groom the best of luck and raise a toast to the newly-married couple.
You’ve delivered your speech and everything ran smoothly. Hopefully you’re walking round the venue receiving compliments on what a great speech you delivered. Now its time to cool off and have a few drinks and make the most of the rest of the day. Take the time to enjoy some of the evening entertainment and leave a note in the bride and grooms message book while capturing some great memories in their photo booth.